Ok I understand. Should I cut off all communication with him unless he reaches out to me? In our couples therapy she told us to say one positive thing about each other every day, of course I have not heard from him and feel he should go first since he moved out and is the one with all the issues. I am in the process of reading DB and it says to change things up. For me that would be quick sending him the every other day text, don't call for any reason and basically live my life without him.
That is hard to do but I am getting better every day.
I feel you are right about the marriage counseling I think he feels it is something he should do even though the other day I told him we could stop if he wanted to.
