He's found his drug, the place where he doesn't have to be here now. (HT to Ram Dass)
Many seemingly "with it" people are fine when a R ambles along easily. I think that's where the "we shouldn't have to work at it" story originates. But then when kids, stress, real life hits, not many have the emotional depth or insight to do what needs to be done.
So they look for the next "I shouldn't have to work at it R."
Sorry you had such a bad night.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss