If it's any comfort, your sitch is very typical, down to your impression that it is unique. You think you're progressing slower than others, but your sitch is very recent (3-4 months). You seem to be par for the course, from what I read. I'm seven months into mine and I'm still not productive at work, I ruminate on my broken marriage and find a reason to cry most days. Yet, I GAL a lot and limit contacts with my WW as much as possible.
What you need now is patience. Patience with your sitch because these things take 1-2 years to resolve, one way or the other. Patience with yourself because you have a lot to process. You know what you have to do, which is to build a life of your own and work on your changes. There's no rush in showing them to a life partner, but there are plenty of opportunities to practice them on friends, coworkers, family members and the likes.
My advice at this stage would be to ensure that you give yourself permission to do things you love. GAL is not just being busy, it's about spoiling yourself, it's about building a life you love so much that you don't enjoy that of anyone else. Ask yourself: "What would I do if I gave myself permission?" This can be a pretty exciting prospect.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
