Not sure how to do this with co-parenting. There are things we still need to work out on the agreement, etc. Other than the lawyers, there are no family, or friends, or anyone that would work as a 3rd party.
People do it all the time. Maybe ask the judge's assistant if there is a state facility where exchanges might be done, 15 minutes apart from each other or something? Where there's a will there's a way, Sherman.
And there's NO WAY that what you just described up there ^^^ (and have been describing since you arrived here) is "good for S7 to have his mother right now." Later? When she's more well? Sure, and I would encourage that -- every child should have a mommy AND a daddy, and S7 should too. But right now she is emotionally abusive and S7 is being exposed to WAY, WAY too much drama and even hurtful things.