You pointed out what a great husband you are? Really? Dude read Sandis thread. Stop the denial. Your wife is having an EA she thinks thet grass is greener elsewhere. Im sorry to be blunt.
I didn't say what I did was smart. Hell, I think we have all been in the same situation where things are going well (at least as good as it could, in the situation) and we say and do dumb things. I did read Sandis thread, it resonates, but I also, still being early on in the process, am in denial. I always think that my situation is different. Of course, it's not, but still, I think that is human nature.
We always like to think our situations are unique and special. When in reality, our situations are all almost exactly the same. We like to think that doing things 'our' way will work, because, well, we are different. However, there are plenty of people in the world who have employed their own methods to saving their marriage and we see how that worked out for them.
I think everyone here needs the dose of reality. No matter how I want to justify anything, she did have an EA. Even though every piece of me wants to be loving and caring and nice and whatever to my W, I cannot do that at the time. If I do, I will be setting myself up to fail.
It's much easier typing that than acting that though. I understand. If I could only keep my cool/calm/open mind that I have right now when I see my W this afternoon when I get home from work.
I will do that. It's time to detach.
M: 6 years, together 11 M: 31 W: 30 D 2, S 4 BD 3/26/15 (EA with OM)
