Trust me -- I am focusing on myself and trying to take care of me and the kids. The focus on W this week is simply because of this new turn of events -- which, I suspect as I have stated, is because of pressure from OW.
My mom did call me late last night out of concern for me -- she'd just gotten off of an hour-long phone call with W's mom who called my mom to express her concerns about my emotional state last night. In a nutshell, W's mom expressed concern for me and stressed to my mom that everyone in the family (W's family) is on my side in all of this and that everyone thinks W is making a colossal mistake -- several colossal mistakes -- in her life right now as a result of this MLC.
New developments -- I am not moving out of the house until W can give me the full amount she owes me for my share of the house. That is going to take a couple of months at least -- but she has agreed to that. There are a few other things that she has also agreed to as of this morning as a result of me sharing a number of my concerns with her very early this morning. It was another tear-filled discussion and it was clear when she left for work this morning that she had continued crying after I left to take the kids to school -- I could see it all over her face when she came in the office to tell me goodbye. She even asked if I was feeling any better after our talk this morning -- and her asking me how I feel is a change from her attitude over the past several months.
I think it helped that I stressed the importance of me being in the right frame of mind for my first day of work at my new job tomorrow. I know she doesn't want me to underperform due to stress and end up losing the job -- so right at this moment in time she is willing to "give in" on a few things to reduce my stress level for at least my first couple of weeks in the new position. And again -- that is also a change -- just a few months ago she wouldn't have cared about my feelings or my stress level... But I also think this concern is driven by her need for me to be fully employed so I can move out. So while it's nice to see and feel the concern, I know that it's still coming from a place of selfishness.
But it is a change...
Today is a day filled with errands and some rest... Need to be ready to be a rockstar tomorrow at my new job :-)
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
