Try, just to try it, to focus on the positives of the day. Instead of seeing small movement forward (you, the boys) as failure to reach the ultimate goal, re frame it as "success at making movement forward!!!"
And not just a "well, fine I guess that's growth" kind of way. More like, "hot damn!! That's GROWTH!!! Woo hoo!!!" kind of way.
And let go of some of your resentment. (Says Claire to herself, too). (My STBX sent a perfectly polite and even complimentary email to me today in which he also brought up a trip he's planning with his family. My first thought was "I hate him".
This is all so hard, but what amazing, self-reflective and powerful people we are becoming.
