Telling her to come or don't come - two sides of same coin. Just ride this one out I think and let it be what it will, let her drive. Your action is done, on the past. Some may say it's appropriate to let her know you pushed and she can waffle - but then you're waffling. Stand and let her do her.
Otherwise you're trying to control, out of fear?
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
