From everything that I've read and heard, when it comes to your children, you never go dark on that. imo if you want to know how your child is doing, call and ask or text. Maybe be able to talk with them. You should not initiate with her but continue to initiate with your children.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23