Thanks DLS and Jim. I'll try thinking of him that way - someone else's boyfriend. That may help. I know I'm GALing in many ways, but I want to work more on detachment. I still hold a little place in my heart, and I think that's okay. But I think I need to try and let go more.I'm still attached to the outcome of him responding to me, and it would be good if I could let that go.
Gan, I don't know if it DBing that keeps us attached. Is it just that we need to work on detachment more? Alpha, thanks for your kind comments. Yes, I do have a pretty full life now, and maybe I just need to focus on that. I do feel I clawed my way up to here from despair and trauma. And I won't give up on the life I have built lightly. I can see that if H wanted to try again, but seemed not to have done the work, I just wouldn't be that interested. V, maybe I'll be the one sitting on the fence sometime soon..
RD, thanks so much for your kind words, which made me cry again. I've been watching Brene Brown on TED tonight. She's well worth a watch - but I feel a bit vulnerable now. Had a nice time with SS and his Mum. His Mum is kind of keen to discuss how I feel about things, but I managed to deflect a couple of pertinent questions. I'll be seeing them again tomorrow....
Thanks all for kindly posting - you guys are great! X
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
