Alpha Step At A Time #5

[Ontheup]

Hey alpha

If she wants the tickets let her buy them from you but don't make a big deal about them. She either wants them or she doesn't. end of. Oh and definitely no asking anything if she does buy the tickets. Same as you wouldn't ask a stranger. Show no interest.

As far as the rest of her conv all looks pretty standard WAW script. Don't read anything into it.

OM has left.- So what, why does that effect you and your way forward. They could quite easily still be in contact.

Recon and false hope UNLIKELY - It shouldn't effect you. Keep moving forward. do not pin anything onto her saying UNLIKELY (e.g. not definitely).

Struggling financially - tough sh!t. not your problem

Apologised for the affair - lol, sorry just doesn't cut it. They have no idea the devastation they leave behind. She is absolving herself of guilt. no true remorse shown here.

You were controlling - so then why did she stay with you for 10+years and have 2 kids with you? More Bullsh!t to push the blame onto you. I doubt very much you have had a complete personality transplant in those 10 years. Yes you're to blame for your share in the marriage failings. does that give her the right to start sleeping with someone else? no way! she should have come to you and said "things between are this bad, if we don't sort them out I want out of the marriage" she didn't, She acted like a coward.

Weren't compatible - lol again standard script see above. she stayed for 10 years. it just doesn't wash

Doesn't love you - This is what most fail to realise. Love is an action, not the feelings of infatuation that wear off after first couple of years. Again standard stuff from a WAW. Very immature in her thinking.

Sounds like you did well not getting drawn in. This usually annoys the WAW even more when they see you aren't dancing to their tune any more.
Keep detaching, keep moving forward.
If your wife wants you back you will know about it and it will take more than a "sorry can we forget about it now" conversation. They would all love just to forget about it and be friends. No way. If she wants you back she should be moving heaven and earth to make that happen.
Like I said last night you are a young man with a lot to offer. Your wife is not the only women in the world.


Well done on getting rid of all the snooping stuff. I know its tempting but just don't do it. You'll feel better for it