My L has been contated by my WAW. She has until Friday to contact him with her decision on how to proceed.
I have a good L who is reasonably confident that I have a good case wih regards to and property.
I am nervous of course as to what will come, but have to face my fears. My mind keeps cycling back to "why did this happen and how did this happen" but I know those are answers I will never get. I refer to Sandi's list frequently which provide a measure of comfort.
How I wish I could make it all go away by her "coming to her senses" and saying this was all a mistake, etc..." I realize that is all a fantasy in my head and I have to not go there.
Please keep me and my family in your thoughs and prayers as we embard on this terrible process. A process that I did not want.
I used to think my WAW would be mad at me if I contacted a L - now I see that as manipulation on her part.
My question now is I feel like the financial realitieis of this divorce are going to hit her hard. I am fearful that she will view this as vindictive on my part. I am playing this over in my head. I don't want to appear vindictive yet I want legally what is mine and my children's. How will this play out if there is ANY CHANCE of reconcilliation in the future. The only image she will have of me is a cold vindictive money hungry person. And that is NOT who I am. I guess I hae to let go of how she may or may not perceive me now.
