Yeah -- none of this is easy. Everyone else's points about not moving out are valid, but me staying here is just not possible in my particular sitch. I may not be getting the house -- but I am getting other things out of this... And most importantly, yes, I am being the bigger/better person in all of this. It may be a VERY long time before my W recognizes that, but one day she will look back and realize what she did to me and to our kids and I know she will have regrets about it.
I can't go into details right now -- but I am beginning to see more cracks in her... like small bites of reality are starting to set in... and the more I think about what happened this morning, the more convinced I am that some of this is being prompted by pressure from OW -- and my gut instinct is telling me that there is more going on than I can observe and that OW's doubts/concerns/pressure has less to do with me and more to do with reality setting in for OW (again -- lots of issues on her end with this R that is still "secret" and not out in the open to her family and friends)... As for W, she appears to be back to being on the verge of a nervous breakdown (just minus monster this time)... I can't do anything about that -- I can only take care of myself and I'm trying my best to do that given the circumstances. At least I finally have a GREAT job which helps me take care of myself and the kids financially.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
