WAW-- LRT in action

[SadDood]

I have not posted in a while, so, I figured I would give a status update. I had been doing ALL the housework, cleaning, dishes, even my W's laundry. I hadn't detached and was completely supplicating. I did not understand what Sandi had told me earlier in my thread.

Things were going quite well. While I was away at work (I work in the oilfields away from home for 2 weeks at a time and am home for 2 weeks at a time on a 2 on/2 off schedule). She said she loved me and I immediately chomped at her breadcrumbs. We were texting constantly throughout the day and she would tell me she loved me (never iniated by me) and I would reply that I loved her back. When I returned home, W was cold and said she must admit that she does not feel the same way for me as I do for her. We get along quite well, but I think I am getting friendzoned. She has admitted when I pull back she draws nearer and when I push, she draws back. After letting me know she did not feel the same way, I handled it quite well. I have only shown here happiness and contentment. I still have no evidence of an A, but W has said everything in the script and I have my suspicions, though no concrete evidence. There is no transparency RE: cellphone, FB, or email. I have not even tried to spy.

I have since received DB and probably have read it 5 or 6 times in the last month, even re-reading several relevant portions.

I do suspect my W has gone wayward, whether it is imaginary, EA or PA, I am pretty sure she is a WW. But, I'm still not sure whether she is just a WAW or WW.

Since coming back here, I have read Sandi's threads about how to deal with a WW, over and over again, front to back. I plan to cut and paste all of the relevant posts from Sandi, PatientMan, and Wonka in particular, to a word document for easier reading. (at work only, I just returned to work today)

W stated that she still needed more space, so I left the house a few days early (did not tell her I was going to, I just did).
After doing so, and re-reading Sandi's threads, I sent her a text that was very succinct saying she would need to get her own bank account, and find a place to live. This was a big step, and I felt a huge burden lift and felt more detached than ever. Ever since, I have felt that I am in control of the situation (not her) and have felt good about my sitch. I made it seem as if I was dumping her. I now do not care what she does, if she lies, or anything else for that matter. It is truly empowering.

After further discussion, I said she could live in the Mother-in-Law apartment, while I am home so that she could be near the kids. But after re-reading Sandi's threads, I decided against it and sent her the email below. Fortunately, I am not fully bluffing and prepared to go through with it. This isn't a gimmick