Sadly no, we were swamped with last minute Ira contributions and appointments. Plus the recruiter is gone until next week, so I have an email in with her backup, hoping to gain some information.
Wish me luck.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Wouldn't you know that now they moved the job back to the home office in Tempe! I have a call in to see if it can still be homebased but have yet to hear a word.
I am asking for something that most people don't get, a job they love, that they can be themselves and flourish and continue to grow in. At this rate, I will have to create it myself!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I did this exercise where you silently scream. My word! Had no idea how much stress I could feel and release and yet still have. So I have done it a few more times and will try to do it more often so that I can let some of this stress go. Hopefully soon after I am ticked off, so the stress won't build.
Go have a silent scream.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
First weekend that I can remember being alone in my own house. There may have been a night here and there but not an entire weekend. I guess I should get used to it and enjoy it.
Oh and that job I was excited about , it was posted as home based in error. The recruiter did invite me to use her as a resource and touch base with her when something becomes available and she will help me as much as she can.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Today is Administrative Assistants day and while that is not actually my title, my boss has always acknowledged it. I knew we were going to lunch today(we have each year I have been here) and I usually get a card with a gift card in it. Check , that too but also flowers delivered and a box of chocolates!! He must be trying to keep me and knows something about my wobbly thoughts of moving on...or not and he is just being extra nice since I am awesome. LOl
Oh well, at least it was a nice day. Happy Administrative Assistant's Day!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am debating a bit so words of advice are welcome. The gal that had my job before me is just now going through a divorce. She is uber religious, as in nothing is done by her but everything is controlled by God or due to one moving away from God.
Myself, I am spiritual and believe God is inside everyone and you either tune in or you don't. I don't push my beliefs religiously/spiritually on anyone. Trying to help this gal is like hitting my head on a brick wall. Almost all of her advice is pray, pray harder, he must have sinned and left God, you are a Godly woman so you will be fine. Nothing one can really work on. She acknowledges pretty much everyone's comments but ignores mine totally. She knows I have been there.
Since I left a trail of breadcrumbs to her, should I let it go or keep torturing myself?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I have just kind of sat on this. She hasn't asked for anything and I decided that I didn't want to have to bite my tongue while talking to her. I already do that enough each day at work.
I had a regional meeting yeaterday and I wondered if it would jump start my enthusiasm, even if temporarily. Nope, nada, didn't feel excited to be there at all. I feel like a dog chasing my tail, I think of something that I might be excited about for a while and then something doesn't click such as not having time or money for more classes that I need to pursue said new idea.
Really, what am I doing? Do most people go through this? I will admit I do have several different interest that take me on totally different paths but I do know, if nothing else, I don't want to keep doing something that doesn't mean anything to me.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Kat regarding the gal going through a divorce I would leave alone. You cant force someone to listen.
Sounds like you are stagnant where you are. I think it is very normal. It happened to me especially when I turned 50. I sat on those feelings for a bit. Told myself that I needed to slow down. im in no rush to make changes. Im a planner and not planing makes me crazy. But it feels good at times.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I'm with Rick, let it lie. She knows you're there and if she wants to reach out to you then she will. Now, to play the devil's advocate here, maybe she also senses a judgement on your part in regards to her faith and that makes her less likely to turn to your advice. When you describe someone as "uber religious" that says "judgement" to me. (I've never really understood when people put on their dating profiles "spiritual but not religious" Huh?) Her faith may be strong and she turns to what she knows to get her through and to the people she knows understand her faith. Faith can be a rock. Prayer is a conscious act of connecting with God in a way that asks for wisdom and strength and can be an uber good way to approach an issue. God, of course, may be waiting for her to do something rather than waiting for him to do it...but I'm not Him/Her/Whatever! So I'm not sure how her "uber religious" practices effect the situation negatively? And yes, when we sin (miss the mark) we have moved away from God. You may feel her world is too narrow and therefore she sees you as unable to help her. You seem to view the advice she is receiving from friends as unhelpful, she may disagree. I, of course, know you to be a loving person who is there for her but maybe she's not sensing it. Just my 2 cents for what it's worth...but again, I'd let it go...and let God
