Well, I did it. I called the OM's W. She was shocked and was in disbelief. She immediately want to meet to ensure I didn't make a mistake.

So I met OM's W at Panera and I showed her my proof of the A. She literally had no idea what was going on. It felt good to do the right thing!

I was able to console her a bit and we exchanged a bit of info/intel. She was obviously pretty shaken up.

I told OM's W that my goal is for the A to end and for both of us to save our families. She agreed.

She wasn't sure how she was going to handle but I just cautioned her to try to think things through and keep me updated. She agreed.

It sounds like OM's W will play it that she found out about the A from a friend of hers at the hospital. I told her that's fine but she doesn't have to protect me.
OM's wife did ask me not say anything about our meeting to my W.

So, I am bunkering down and preparing for the pending hurricane. Wish me luck!

If W asks me if I told OM's W about the affair, how should I respond?

Oh, and thanks for the encouragement guys, especially GB! It feels great to do something proactive for a change.


Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15