Well, I did it. I called the OM's W. She was shocked and was in disbelief. She immediately want to meet to ensure I didn't make a mistake.
So I met OM's W at Panera and I showed her my proof of the A. She literally had no idea what was going on. It felt good to do the right thing!
I was able to console her a bit and we exchanged a bit of info/intel. She was obviously pretty shaken up.
I told OM's W that my goal is for the A to end and for both of us to save our families. She agreed.
She wasn't sure how she was going to handle but I just cautioned her to try to think things through and keep me updated. She agreed.
It sounds like OM's W will play it that she found out about the A from a friend of hers at the hospital. I told her that's fine but she doesn't have to protect me. OM's wife did ask me not say anything about our meeting to my W.
So, I am bunkering down and preparing for the pending hurricane. Wish me luck!
If W asks me if I told OM's W about the affair, how should I respond?
Oh, and thanks for the encouragement guys, especially GB! It feels great to do something proactive for a change.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15