And thank you, Job...your words have not left my thoughts, "One step at a time" is exactly it. Also, Job...a few oddities to add to your MLC repertoire...(nothing new to you, I'm guessing)
Stbx Mantras: (not that the "whys" matter anymore, just interesting the mindset and the guilt, avoidance, etc.)
Said he thinks we could date or maybe "hook-up" after D is final. I told him I do not see us being friends after it is final. He was shocked...following script like all the others.
Says "I can't go back, not now or in the near future" (Sooooo....distant future?? Hold my breath??? Ahhhno.)
Continues to blame me, now with the *new* reason being that I walked out of a counseling session in February of 2014 and that was the final nail.
He said he needs the D to happen because he can't move on until then.
He thought I was dating because he saw a text on my phone from a male friend, and made jealous and assumptive comments. "Why don't you just have Mr. G help you with your car?" and, "I'm sure Mr. G will be glad to have the D behind you." ....omg. He was so far off on that.
After he asked, I told him I will not be changing my last name back to my maiden name, but he started sending emails to my maiden name address anyway.
He continues to audition for bands, his talent makes him desirable to many, but for whatever reason...he can't find the right fit. (<<Easy one right there.)
He still has almost no contact with his family, other than his adult kids, now on their own.
He still dates, but has not introduced anyone to his family. I happened to see a woman's name on an entertainment type certificate in the back seat of his car when he delivered D papers to me. I do not believe he is capable of connecting with another person on any deep level at this point.
Deeeeeep in the tunnel he stays.....
Oh! And I just now received a text from him that he wants me to know he is looking in his bank account every morning to see if tax refund has posted, and as soon as it does, he will give it to me. (<<somebody's feeling guilty)
