While neither of them might be true narcs, the whole pattern of blame etc the dance fits. In the beginning I stood hoping for things to get better, but my h just wanted to be proven right. So he kept moving the script and story to fit the facts.
He's still with ow, and it's been well over a year. Best Intel says she was around for upto 6 months before that.
The whole making the fight yours to fix totally my h way of doing things, but untill it was swept under a rug with no solution and the fight dynmics was the problem. It kept going round and round. H was very invested It keeping it going. He did make it my job to fix it all and always.
Yes, I have also gotten to that point where after all the stuff hitting s17 and the things h did to me, which were no light matters I could not trust him again. The ow is just the last straw, not her specifically but the fact h felt entitled to dump us and go on a happiness search.
We all know there is no happiness out there points and waves into the distance... Lol
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
