Now about your h. It's true, he doesn't know how to interact w/you because you both have changed quite a bit during the crisis. He may feel uncomfortable round you because he is very much aware of what he's done. Guilt and shame play a role in all of this and until he can figure out how to cross that bridge and become comfortable enough to be around you again, he's going to appear to have a bit of a wall up.
Bright, yes, he's painted himself into a corner and he doesn't know how to get out. They all do this and it's going to take some time before he figures things out. He has now seen you w/friends and family members and he knows that you harbor no ill will against him. I'm hoping that as times moves along, he'll come to realize that you are not the reason for his problems.
Your weekend was a fun, busy and educational one for you. You now have had a good view of what has been happening. He's not a happy camper and it shows in most of what he does. I hope that what you learned over the weekend will help you to detach a bit more.
His journey is not yet over and I do hope that when he does cross he finish line that he comes to the realization that he had a wonderful wife who loved him and would have done anything for him. Bright, never forget this....you are the prize!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
