You've been busy over the weekend and I'm sure your kitchen will look fabulous when everything is completed. It is now your creation and you can do whatever you want w/the design. It's nice when family can come over and help out and if they didn't want to be there, they wouldn't have been there, i.e., regardless of xh's.
I'm sorry that your xh didn't acknowledge your birthday, but right now, his attention is elsewhere and will be for quite some time. It's par for the course w/people in crisis.
Mighty, I think you are doing great. It's difficult dealing w/the fallout once, but to have to go thru it twice...it's even worse. Hang in there! You are rebuilding your life one block at a time and when you are done, you will then be able to sit back and smile at all that you've accomplished.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
