We have been going to couseling for three weeks now. Wife claims other man just friend from group she hangs out with. My 4 1/2 year old knows to much about him. Wife and I had a fuss when I confronted her about this. Said she did not know what she wanted and it was over and I should get a attorney. So I did. The next morning she contacts me to tell me she was only mad when telling me that. She says we need to talk. I went to couseling by myself. Couseler tells me that these people she has been hanging out with are all just party friends. That this is a form of midlife crisis not to give up. So I finally called wife back last night to talk as she wanted. Asked her would she be willing to go back to couseling and do the seperation time correctly. She agreed to go back to the couseling. Says she does miss me and feels safe seeing me at couseling. I have been a little crazy lately. Says she is not ready for us to be alone. That we must follow the couselers guide lines. She also tells me that she would not feel comfortable with any type of physical relations between us because it would send mixed emotions. I have not tried or asked for any type physical relations since seperation. How can I tell if she is really putting forth an effort. I have to be seperated a year in the state we live before we can get a divorce unless I file on adultry. I have a attorneys appointment today. Feel like I should go ahead and file, but also feel like I would be making a mistake doing so quickley. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
