Put one foot in front of the other

[Cherry]

It is tough with the ring thing, I used to think the same. And to start I used to mention it to h when he either didn't wear it or wore it on a different finger. And he would snap back at me things like you better get used to seeing me without it. It could be if you're being calm and 180s are working he is confused by your lack of response so like a child- tests you. I could be wrong but I swear this is what my h did.
Cadet is right though, this is his fog. And unfortunately nothing we can SAY will help them. But consistent actions of love will help. Hang in there and keep journaling. We are all here for you and you are doing great you really are.