Oh, and just to update a question from my previous journaling, W has most definitely not broken off contact with OM. It probably makes sense to delay any discussion with OM's wife until after this sit down conversation with my W, right?
No. Now, it appears you're just conflict avoiding.
Everyday you wait is another day OM's wife is most likely living in a lie.
It's like a band-aid. Just do it.
Besides.. This conversation isn't REALLY a conversation. Your wife (and OM) have an agenda. Your feelings, your best interests, your sanity are NOT on their agenda.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
