Alpha Step At A Time #5

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Right, thank you.

I posted here before doing something stupid like contacting her. Even just taking a pasting from you guys has made me feel better.

Starksy, I really, really appreciate your advice. I am finding this hard, that is clear to everyone. I know you offer tremendous advice and I'd be/have been stupid not to follow it as you clearly know what you're on about.

Thanks, Drew. I will shrug it off should it come up.

I read lots of other peoples' threads and I see the difference in how I zoom in on every little detail.

Starksy, as ever you're right. I've read detach, detach, detach...and I've not.

So, this is it! From now on I'm just simply going to give it everything in an attempt to detach. I have to interact with her on a semi regular basis over the kids but I am going to dive headlong into my life. No checking emails, IM, YouTube, whatever.

A consoling thought it the number of people here who have had their S move in with other people, date others etc etc and still things one day work out. I understand detaching is not giving up - and I'm clearly not doing that - just accepting what will be will be.

With potential house sale coming up that (detaching) is going to be difficult. As with my comments in Rysin's thread earlier, I'm just after advice on how to do this. I need all the help I can get. I appreciate all the help I am getting. Thank you all so much.