I'm glad you spoke to the attorney and now you know for sure that what you told your xh is correct.
If he's going to go nuts over your message, it's best he's in Hong Kong and far away from you where he can't do a thing about anything. I'm sure he's going to have a few choice words to dish out...but stay calm and do not get into a heated discussion w/him. Keep it short and sweet and if he's nasty, then go silent. Sometimes by remaining silent the true message is heard more so than actually saying anything at all.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
