Hmm so by changing our mindset we may no longer do the things I list above as they are no longer relevant to us anyway, we've just decided not to live that way. Correct?

Not too difficult to understand conceptually but I'd imagine difficult to reach that point of being able to live that way/be aware you're not doing things backwards.

Edit: I hope others are getting something out of this brief exchange. I'm curious, is it.on an intuitive level that a spouse may know the difference between tactically detaching and actually doing it?

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BD - 30TH JAN 2015
S - 30TH JAN 2015
PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014)
CONTINUAL TALK OF D
ME: 31
W: 28
T: 10yrs
M: 4.5yrs
D:5, S:6