Happy Anniversary to Me! ("I Won't Give Up on Us")

[Rick1963]

So happy for you and the W. Wishing u both another happy 30

[deepend]

Im so glad for you guys!

[Starsky309]

Thank you all!

[Train]

Starsky,

Something occurred to me yesterday evening: April 13 is a super-interesting date in my life. It was my dad's birthday. It is my long-time boss's birthday (he was like a second dad; I worked for him from the time I was 19 until I became a SAHM when I was 28). It's my H's birthday. It's my nephew's birthday. And now I'm finding out it's your anniversary.

One thing's for sure: I will never forget your anniversary now, old friend.

(Interestingly, I had a friend whose husband was a statistics guru. We were once waiting on local election results to come in, and - because he was bored - he tried to figure out the "statistical probability" of me knowing so many people who share April 13 as a special day. I forget his guesstimate, but it was out-of-this-world improbable.)

Anyway, I hope y'all had a FANTASTIC night. (Hubba hubba )

[Starsky309]

Train, no one says "hubba hubba" anymore, dear.

Thanks for the wishes!!! It was indeed a great day.

I wrote the following note in my anniversary card to the fetching Mrs. Starsky, and we exchanged our cards at the restaurant last nite:


(Wife's first name),

I’ll type this and spare you my lousy handwriting, LOL, and because it’s easier to share my heart with you when I can write it faster.

There is so much going through my mind and through my heart this anniversary – it seems somehow qualitatively different from the others. Not just quantitatively different, because, you know it’s our 30th and all, but different in quality. I think more than anything I feel GRATITUDE today – gratitude to God for giving you to me to begin with and for helping us save our marriage, and then gratitude to you for all of the things you’ve done for me – and to help me – over these 30 years.

I have a hard time sometimes focusing on what I have instead of on what I don’t have, and I’ve made a conscious effort the last couple of years to really work on GRATITUDE in my life. And there is nothing (along with my children and my grandchildren) that I have more grateful for than YOU. :o)

I am so very thankful also that not only did we put Humpty Dumpty together again these past eight years, but now all of that work is bearing fruit in the lives of our friends and our family who see our faith and our effort and our character, and how marriage is not something that you just chuck away when it gets tough.

Even REALLY tough.

Through all of the frequent doubts I have in my life about things I do *not* do well, this is something that makes me really pleased when I think about it, and it’s a gift that we have given to our children (and that I pray they will teach to their children).

I can’t even imagine now if I had lost you. Through our crap, and through various (thankfully minor!) momentary health scares (and maybe just because we’re getting older, or maybe because we lost your dad this year?) I do think about that now sometimes. And it feels so EMPTY to think of not being married to you. :o(

So tonite I thank you for all of the BIG things you do (like mentor our daughters, and forgive your husband, and honor your mother and your father) and for all of the “little” things we share, too, that are so very special to me (think “hot-buttered popcorn and The Blacklist,” or “day dates,” or “date nights” or our silly moments with our beloved pets). And I celebrate with a grateful heart all we have been given to share these past 30 years as husband and wife, and I truly thank my God upon every remembrance of you!

All my love forever and always,

(Starsky)




Starsky

[Heart14]

Congrats on 30 years! Your heartfelt words to Mrs. Starsky are very sweet. You give everyone on this board hope for a bright future if/when they reconcile with their spouse. Thanks for all the wisdom you pass onto others daily.

[Train]

Awwwwww. Sniff. Sniff. Beautiful.

Signed,
Train, the one person left on Earth who says "hubba hubba" (now while laughing my face off)

[Starsky309]

LOL. My good friend B (male) calls the fetching Mrs. Starsky a "dish." I always tell him, "B, no one says 'dish' anymore!"

He replied, "Well I do."

[NewB3]

Congrats and thanks for always keeping it personal when you give advice. I appreciate every minute you spend on my threads.

Thanks for being......

[alpha99]

Congratulations on your anniversary Starksy.

Reading your letter to your wife on page 1 just made me cry.

I hope one day I am writing a similarly moving and heartfelt note to my wife.

Congratulations again