I've been having similar thoughts although I don't see it so much as a wall barring trust or love. The way I've been thinking about it is something more along the lines of this:
During the DB process we read a lot about relationships and how to build healthy relationships. We learn about boundaries, how to speak love languages, how to validate another's feelings and many other relationship related topics.
Then I stop to consider that maybe most people haven't had exposure to any of this. How are we supposed to feel connected to anyone and feel like it will be positive and last without giving them some DB related homework. Sure we can try to set the example from things we've learned, but how long before it becomes too one sided?
When I start thinking of this I keep imagining every Jan. 1st sitting down with the two of us to take the 5LL quiz again. That way we make sure we still know each other's primary love language. Or something along those lines. How long before that becomes cumbersome to the R? Maybe I'm taking maintenance of the R a little too literally. :-/
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Me:33 W:34 T:13 M:8.5 D mentioned & S 2/13/15 "We can never get back together" 4/2/15 Visited & Mentioned she hasn't filed 4/20/15 "I want to have cats back" 5/4/15 Served D papers 5/8/15
