If there's a TON of work to be done, it seems that there's money to hire someone to do it. If all H's able to do is open his wallet and take out the credit card, then let him do that.

This isn't all your responsibility. Share the pain.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss