One interesting note - I do not set foot in WW apartment and she has not set foot in our martial home. It's sad that we can't do this but whenever we do (Christmas) it's been a diaster.
For example we had a d6 birthday around Christmas at the house. We made herself very comfortable going through drawers pulling out items she needed - it was eerie and rubbed me the wrong way. Since then she has not been to the house.
Last time I was at her place, it was very uncomfortable and I sat glued to the kitchen table and used the bathroom once. Again, it was eerie to see our things in another setting .
Should I encourage her to come to the house to reconnect or just keep it separate . My gut tells me to keep it the way it is - no visits.
I don't ask to go to her apartment and she doesn't invite me in. I guess that is my answer - until things settle down - if ever - it's best to keep it separate. Right?
My view is that as long as she maintains an active affair and flaunts it -- I have no business at her apartment and vice versa.
