LisaB - I can relate to your cynicism. The romantic in me is very, very ill. I responded more on your thread yesterday.
Raliced - It's very interesting that you feel more yourself now. My WW left me saying this is what she was seeking. For me, it's different from feeling whole. I also feel more like myself now, without the compromises of an R. But much like having a job or kids make me feel connected to the human experience, so does being in a couple. I even love the responsibilities that come with it. The other day, I had a crying fit watching House M.D. because a husband was asked to make life-or-death decisions for his unconscious wife and I was so sad to have been stripped of that responsibility. Have I been untrustworthy? That's an example of feeling whole to me.
Georgiabelle - About finding people attractive. I always told my wife that she was the most beautiful woman in the world and, my honest assessment is that she was in the top 5-10% for me. I wouldn't even look at other women, and my W and friends made fun of me for it. On the other hand, I liked to observe people and look for what's attractive in them, what their partner may like, and I could almost always find something, even in the ugliest people. After BD, I was repulsed by every woman who was not WW. Now, I'm back to finding something attractive in anyone, although not necessarily for me. I think my physical criteria are back to where they were before I met WW. All of this to say that my attraction is strongly related to my emotional status.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
