Gosh, can I relate to this topic or what? Raliced, your post really resonates with me. I completely relate to all of what you say. I cannot imagine (and boy do I have a vivid imagination!!) bringing someone new into my kids lives. I'm not opposed, I just simply cannot imagine it happening. I trusted x Mr. GB implicitly, and while I agree everyone can move forward and have a wonderful life, I don't know if I agree with some that think you *get over* this. I do feel like this alters you permanently and it is your choice how you proceed. Still, it is virtually impossible for me to imagine trusting someone like that again. 2x4 me. I'm okay with it:)
Lisa, although you are a little younger and have no kids, I totally hear you as well. I have this giant wall (what am I saying? It's a freaking fortress!!) built around me and I don't see if coming down anytime soon. Part of me simply doesn't want to deal with anyone's caca. Call it self protection if you want, but part of me simply doesn't have the capacity at this point to deal with a R.
Mozza, I think casual Rs are great. Unfortunately, I don't believe there is any such thing as no strings attached. There is always a string somewhere....I can relate to feeling whole in a R. I think most cultures view a R as a *desirable* thing so I understand that concept. However, I can also relate to the many female posters who say they feel like they are finding themselves.
I don't know. Everyone is different. I admit I am a tad envious of individuals who seem to just move seamlessly from R to R and find many people attractive. I don't, so that is a completely foreign concept to me. I am rarely attracted to people so........... I guess we will all figure it out in our own time:)
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3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
