I hucked a waterfall.

[mahhhty]

But... I finally put the bug in her ear for the coffee date for co-parenting. Here is the text exchange from yesterday.

Me: Happy Monday! How is D feeling?
Her: You too! She was good this morning. Only woke up once last night and I didn't have to give her any meds...I guess it was just a quick bug. Also, I have to travel tomorrow. Would you like to take the kids? Sorry for the last minute notice, just keep spacing to ask you. If you can't, my parents can take them. And so I don't forget, the next time this happens is May 11/12...
Me: Definitely! Did S show any symptoms? I also believe relatively soon we should get together for a coffee and discuss any co-parenting items we may have. Upcoming schedules, soccer?, dance?, your copy of the tax forms and subsequent $, etc.
Her: Okay! No, no signs with him yet...

Its not a huge development, but I did address it. I will let it go until Monday (when she is back) to set a date/time. As for Co-Parenting items, here is what is on my radar to discuss.

- Gifting Syndrome. The idea that we want to have the best time with the kids possible when we have them, and as a result we feel obligated to buy the kids things. We can not give the kids everything they want all the time. It is not healthy.
- Potty Training our Son
- Soccer for our Daughter
- How to react when the kids, say they "miss Mommy" or "miss Daddy" what the expectations are? I believe its my job to promote their relationship with her regardless of how I may feel about that person in the moment.
- When she calls to say goodnight and I am with my sister's family. Last time my nephew (who was very fond of her) wanted to talk to her, but as the conversation progressed it sounded as if she was crying.
- I received the text stating “This is not okay.” I assumed it was in regards to missing her call. Which would have been the 2nd time in two nights. However, I received the text while calling you back. And the first night was due to me being at a wake. From her perspective I could see how that could be disingenuous. However, I will not be her punching bag nor will I respond to those situations.
- Giving her a copy of the 2014 tax returns, write her a check for the return $
- Tell her I will be removing our relationship status from Facebook, and explain that she can change her privacy settings if she wishes, so people will not see the change. Furthermore, explain that I will not be deleting all the photos from the page at this time, and would appreciate that if she chooses to do so that she gives me some consideration to download them if I wish to.