Depress, don't jump the gun. That is a positive but that doesn't mean it is ok for you to stop working on you. You should still be using the Sandi's rules as a guideline and listen to the advice others are giving you, especially the vets. You have a long haul with lots of work to do if he truly does want to come home. Your situation reminds me a little of TO34s, if you haven't read her threads you should.

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Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since