Hi all, i find it frightening how fast the wife can move from being reasonable to full out anger and lash out at me with such near hatred. i try to remain the lighthouse in those instances and not get pulled into a fight but that is where i take steps backward to many times. she usually apologizes later and admits she is so angry at me. she has also told me that i completely broke her heart and when it healed it healed very hard. she says she cannot risk her heart to me again. i can not blame her. is it possible to soften her heart toward me again or will those scares forever be their? Right now all she can see is the pain of the relationship. In time will she allow the good things we have had to come to the surface again? Much of the pain she has from me is from her feeling rejected by me in angry times. we are very very passionate toward one another and both stubborn ppl. we always had an amazing sex life. have both been very successful career ppl and have built many great things together. we have moved from the couple everyone had bet on to near complete self destruction. she has fought hard for this marriage and is hard to see her completely give up now that i see so many things clearly and want to better them. i realize i am probably in the "to little to late" category. All i have left is to gal and use total agreement to try to build some sort of a bridge between the great distance she holds her heart from me. Has anyone done this? Can it be done to build something greater and safer than before? Will she ever trust her heart to me again? Thank you.
The answers to all your questions are - YES But their are no guarantees, and DB'ing is counterintutive.
