WOW! He's still having moments of confusion and clarity. I do think he's starting to move forward a bit, but he's still clinging to that cocoon and doesn't really want to leave the comfort of his fantasy world.
You've been handling your situation quite well. The only change I would make is to not be so readily available to him. How is he going to learn that he misses you when you aren't there? It's okay to meet up w/him periodically, but limit those meet ups just a wee bit.
Continue to listen, don't offer up advice unless he asks for it. After all, he's got to grow up, make his own mistakes and learn from them. He's got to see you as his wife, not his mother.
To change the subject, how are you doing? What are you doing to keep yourself busy? Are you doing fun things? How is D2 doing living on her own?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
