Ripken - Trying LRT and going dark. Now what?

[Ripken8]

Thanks cadet. I've read those links and they are helpful. I'll keep at it. Anything in my situation? I have been trying lrt and going dark but it's hard living in the same house at times. Some days are easier than others. I've done so much work for myself and for the most part I'm happy with who I have found in me again. But it's hard sometimes to not detach and not take things she says/does or doesn't say/do personally.

Also tough to not assume and worry about the future. For example we have our own back accounts and a joint one. She had been on me about getting my w2 so she could file taxes and just did so Saturday. I was hesitant because I know well get a refund. Now all I can think of is all or some of that money will go to her account and she'll use it to move out. She's never said any of this but that's the type if things that go through my mind.

I hate the rollarcoaster and I'm sure I'm being impatient. I don't show or tell her this though. That's what the boards and my divorce coach are for : )