Zelda - almost there

[Mozza]

Zelda09 - Me again, the wannabe Simon Cowell of marriage counseling. So I'll tell you straight: what I see in your future is a new partner that will be so different, so much better than your H that you will wonder why you ever wanted to be with him. You're learning a lot and just your presence here shows how much you care about being a better person. If you now think you were the wrong one, it's because he's been gaslighting you (making you doubt reality with his lies). From what you wrote us, he's the aggressor and blames you for his reactions. As someone with kids, and five years on you, I envy you to be able to make a fresh start. Plus, you seem very hot, given that neighbor story! I laughed. Anyway, the hardest part is now: letting go. Remember: you want someone who will say "Fcuk yes, Zelda!"

By the way, thanks a lot to you, Vanilla and all the others who talk about abuse. For anyone who's been dumped by a disillusioned spouse, it's interesting to put our role in the M dynamics in perspective.