1). I feel better about myself and my self esteem has risen
2). I realize I am not responsible to make my WW happy - that is her responsbility
3). I admit to being codependent and took on too much trying to make everyone happy, which is a recipie in futility
4). I was more invested in the "marriage" than the relationship which ultimately led to the partial demise of the marriage
Since my WW wife has left I have learned to:
1. Get a Life - trying lots ot new activities, it is still hard but I can and am doing it.
2. Keep a PMA - some days better than others but a smile goes a long way
3. Give my WW wife a lot of space, I don't call, text or contact unless it's about the kids. I don't guilt trip her when I do talk to her, I have learned to validate and STFU hen necessary.
4. I have learned to keep upbeat when in her presence or in the presence of mutual friends.
5. I have made friends outside of our marriage circle and have rounded up a possee to help me when I need it.
6. get help - counselor, shrink and medications, Divoce Busting so I don't have to go through this awful experience unsupported.
7. I am not afraid of rocking the boat or incurring the wrath of WW. I have hired a lawyer and am working hard to protect my rights and the best interests of my children.
8. I can only control ME - I can't control anybody else nor do I want to. I'm enough.
I don't know how this will end but I DO know that I will be the better for this experience as painful as it has been for my family and me.
