I'm sorry that you have to be here, but you will get excellent advice and support.
You mentioned that you and your W went to counseling on/off but not regulary enough. Why not? Did she give up? You?
It is great that you are going weekly to counseling for yourself.
Take care of yourself.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15