GB, I appreciate your response. Whether or not to tell OM's betrayed spouse is something I will will have to think long and hard about. Thank you for your prayers!
Some of the therapists/coaches I have spoken with have advised against it but I know there are definitely two schools of thought here.
The logistics of it make sense but right now I'm questioning my motives. I know I should want to do it because it's the "right" thing to do but I wonder if I am just contemplating it out of hope it destroys the affair.
On a personal note, tonight was a little challenging as I met my W at the mall to pick up the kids. I could tell she was preoccupied and in a hurry so there really wasn't much of a conversation. She usually will try to initiate a hug before she leaves but not this time. I really just need to do a better job eliminating any expectations for my W and this M.
Last edited by Defacto; 04/13/1511:39 PM.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
