Long time lurker first time reply. Listen I understand where you are coming from to a degree. The biggest problem is looks like your marriage is having is communication. I suggest first that you two talk as soon as possible and keep it steady. I would suggest finding a counselor to help if you have the money. I can relate alittle because my spouse cheated on me a few years ago. It was tough and because of it my marriage became really bad. Just a downward spiral of problems. Its was loveless and we constantly had problems. It wasn't until one day until I said I had enough and decided to take action. I did some Google and came across this site

I thought it was nonsense at first but I decided to get the information. About few weeks later my marriage slowly started to change for the better.

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