Great advices from Mozza, GG and Calibri. Women do not like too much mellow man, but we really run away from the ones that have chick fit and explode without thinking.
So, how you will deal with it now? I think that first you need to let go on what just happened. You can't change the whole blow. But, you can pick yourself up and learn from your own mistakes.
If you go back on some of the success stories, the Vets stories, you will read a bunch of mistakes done by them. We all make some mistakes because we are in a situation we don't want to be. We want everything resolved by tomorrow.
But it is not going to happen and you already know it. You don't want to go crazy with all this. You want a healthy R that will bring joy into your life.
If your goal is to rescue your M, then sit alone sometime and think how you can get there. For sure it's not screaming on the phone. If you read the DB and DR books, you know what Michelle said about the LBS caring the heavy lift. It's unfair but it's what we need to do if we want to use the techniques that work.
I made many mistakes, got many 2x4s on my head, cried a lot with unnecessary pain, and I am finally learning some lessons.
How do you miss someone T? Maybe distance is not always your enemy. It gives time and space for our partners to think about what they are losing. Instead of feeling the fear, the loneliness, the emptiness, why not let your W thirsty for your attention again?
Be patient, be gentle with yourself, take sometime and breath. It will all be better tomorrow. Do not do anything now that you can regret later, so let time go by.
And, most important, do some GAL for yourself. Force yourself to new things, meet some people, even if it is just one at a time. You will feel better, you will look better, you may not take notice, but you will sound better, happier.
Hang in there. It was one battle, but you need energy for the entire war. Don't beat yourself up.
