I really need help to save my marriage.

[mahhhty]

Joe - Thank you for your service. I am very sorry you are here, and have experienced multiple losses. Your story is only the tip of the iceberg I am sure. Have you ever thought of going to counseling? I never thought in my wildest dreams that I would go, but I did, and it helped me?

Also don't sabotage yourself... twice in your narrative you described situations where she did something to you, so you retaliated (the potential affair and Facebook). You will need to be a stronger person that that. Being angry and upset is one thing taking it out on her and making a public display is another.

At the end of your story, you stated please help me. This message board is a place to get tools (knowledge, experience, understanding, support). But no one here can make the decisions to turn things around, only you. Be honest with yourself, and educate yourself.