Thanks, Calibri. I am hurting, wondering if I'm delusional in how bitchy I was really being about the dam errand.
I understand completely. I didn't think I was AS bitchy as H said - until I looked back at my actions in horror and then I realized that, oh yes -- I HAD been that bitchy. Some of it towards my H, most of it not, but he unfortunately started taking every bitchy thing I said to heart - even if it wasn't directed at him. That makes me sad, for both myself and him.
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Idk if it is understandable for someone to not be interested in a M suddenly bc of something like that when they swore up and down that was their goal in coming back.
I struggled with this alot. I related to what your H said about the straw that broke the camel's back. Know what mine was? An argument about his parent's manipulating him and him going along with it and me, tired from three hours of sleep, frustrated that he was getting manipulated, stressed out because I was packing up and painting a house....I LOST IT. Alot of it was stress based, insecurities that mainly have to do with his parents. And that's where he claimed that he was finally *done* with me. I'm like, over an argument that was over in 10 minutes and that I apologized for? You're leaving over that? But, at that time, enough was enough for him. I scratched my head -- because I'm like, we've had worse fights then this, what about this made it "the end."
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In fact when I asked him this yesterday, he got upset on this point alone and said, you're really pis...me off. I told you my goal was s happy M.
Happy marriages, working on things. They all have bumps in the road. He doesn't seem to get that. But honestly, I can't tell what end is up with your H, sometimes. As must you.
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My no-regrets plan had been to let H take the wheel on this. And he did. Now I sm trying to move the goalposts. It's desperate.
My H has moved the goalposts alot during our separation. It pisses me off. He's doing what he feels he has to do. So why are you trying to move the goalposts?
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
