Okay, I have to ask. You say that you've been "affair free" since last Spring which means that you've been doing it for YEARS. And yet you seem puzzled by her disconnect by her.
Have both you and her gone to counseling to discuss your A's from before?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.