How long does it take to process a D in your state?
Mine has a one year physical separation period before you can even file.
Could you not use the time (if it's not something insane like 30 days or less) and just let it be? Instead of holding on or looking for answers, let it evolve how it will?
Two couples come to mind right now, when I think of separation. Both I know very well.
-One couple split, she moved out, they were separated for the almost full year our state requires. The H actually started dating someone else, during the process. I don't know about the W. Eventually they came back together and had worked through their issues to the point where they could address the marital issues.
-The other couple, has an interesting dynamic. H has alot of issues, said he would see a MC, but wouldn't follow through because he didn't want "some stranger telling him there's something wrong with him." But told the W that, "she shouldn't date or sleep with anyone else in case they did reconcile, because he wouldn't get over that." The W let him go, let things happen as they would, but stood for her M. While standing, she realized that she didn't want to work on the M. That she was happy to move forward.
You can process this with or without your H's involvement. H being interested in you or not has no bearing (imo) on processing what's happened.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
