On the evening of 4/10/2015, STBXW informed me she had to work late and wanted me to get S7. I ended up having him for her entire weekend. She also stated that he wants to spend time with me over her anyway.
On 4/11/2015, STBXW was at the house, but was packing stuff up in preparation to move out. She informed me that OM had provided her with couches and a TV; that he's decided to purchase new items She also told me that he loaned her an unspecified sum of money. Oh yes men so do these types of things for platonic relationships you know… She also reiterated that she's going to be taking more items from the home since I ruined her plans with OM... this includes the entertainment/TV stand, end tables, lamps, etc.
4/12/2015, STBXW continued to pack up household items, which included the Xbox 360. Our son was very upset about this. He had an absolute meltdown over his favorite game, he'd taken it from the box she'd packed it in and was hugging it to his chest and telling her “no”. STBXW got quite upset with him and started to force it from his hands and told him that he's not going to like the consequences if he keeps up fighting her. I told her to knock it off and she's not to be threatening anyone. He shot upstairs and hid the game from her. I went up and coaxed him into a compromise... I had him pick which games he'd be willing to have a Mom's house and the others he could take back-and-forth with him when he goes to visit. She continued to argue that she should take all the games... that they're not usable without the Xbox360... I told her to let it be and it will sort itself out. Later that night, STBXW came upstairs to report on her "progress"(?), our Son got off the bed and climbed underneath it as soon as she came into the room. After she left, he came back out and was crying. I had to reassure him that everything will be OK. A little later, she came back up to wish him good night. He was cuddled into the crook of my arm with his head on my shoulder… she had to ask a couple of times to get him to kiss her.
She’s in effect divorcing S7 too… especially since she’s been dropping the rope on him and now messaging that she’ll only see him every 2 weeks.
This morning I had a question for her, she walks out of her room in just her underwear (black lace this time) and carries on a whole conversation with me… I just kept doing what I was doing without reacting, which included walking away/talking over my shoulder... she's used to getting reactions and I gave her none.
Stuff we did for S7 & I… For the weekend, I took S7 to McDonald's on Friday to let him play at the playland.
I'm planning on getting into cycling as one of my long term 180s for me... so on Saturday, we hit 5 bike shops. I wanted to check different brands of bikes. S7 was trooper, but he did get to ride a lot of different bikes too. He pestered me most of the day about a $700 yellow trike. LOL
I have a friend who has been doing it for several years and she suggested a hybrid (based on how I might use it) that has disc brakes, and a front suspension. I found one and am planning on getting it today. I've already picked up cycling shorts that have padding in the bottom (feels a little like a diaper, but on the rides I've been on you're so much more comfortable).
On Sunday, we visited with FS8 at his church again. My S7 actually said it was fun this time and wants to go back. The foster agency has recommended that the new Foster mom keep interactions with us to a minimum until FS8 has transitioned a little more… made me a little more sad for the situation. I did get the STBXW to back off on refusing to let us go to church as this is the only way S7 will get to see FS8 at the moment. I also had to go buy dishes and new pots/pans as the STBXW was packing everything. She's planning on moving this coming weekend and those were items she's taking. The dishes were presents over several years and in a pattern she always wanted. The pots/pans she came into the marriage with (but I got better ones now :D).
So she's also going to leave the couch and dining table. But taking the master bedroom furniture, end-tables, lamps, and a few other items. So I need new bedroom furniture. Ugh.
One interesting conversation I had with her is on my future plans... I told her I would go back to what I was doing when we met... dating several women to see who I like best, she frowned slightly with this. She also offered to come help declutter. That it bothers her how cluttered everything is. I told her I don't need her help and will take care of it. Her response was that there will be things I need another person's help with. I asked her why she thinks I won't have help if I need it?
Another item that happened was with the neighbors... it's become evident even to her that the neighbor has embellished the story. The one neighbor that had somewhat taken her side in this messaged her that she didn't want to be involved at this time... which pissed off the STBXW. So the STBX, read me a rather long text she'd sent back both taking the neighbors to task and defending me along with it. I was mildly surprised to say the least.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
