Regarding the lawyer, I had to file a response within 30 days or her demands would be honored by default. She did not respond to my request for an extension. I suppose I could have asked the same question 2 or 3 times, but wouldn't that constitute pursual or harassment? Keep in mind that she snuck down to courthouse and filed for divorce without consulting with me. She HAS told me that her position is non-negotiable, and also did not include her retirement on income and expenses financials. She was hoping that I would overlook it. I suppose that is mind reading as well, although I doubt it.
I ask questions because I haven't found the answers in what you've already written. Granted I haven't read every word of your threads but sometimes clarification is called for. I hadn't read previously that you requested an extension.
I didn't say or imply that you should ask again, I asked if you had requested an extension. I could come here and pat you on the back and agree with everything you say or do but is that really what you want? Do questions stir up a little anger in you? You get defensive and that's usually a sign to look deeper.
So brass tacks, you're W is in an active affair and has moved out and filed for D.
The best thing you can do is say adios, amiga, go no contact, keep yourself intact and figure out how to make things different in your life. As you said in some of your early posts, you both let the marriage slide.
What happened in your first marriage?
What did you learn from that marriage break-up?
What are you learning now?
About the paradox, how does mindreading help you? What purpose does it serve?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
