I thought I would touch base and let you all know what is going on in life.
Things are so much better in life with the new guy. I can't believe how different this guy is compared to my X. He treats me with respect, helps out with housework and does all the cooking and is totally supportive of everything. I keep pinching myself to see if this is real. And extra plus, both kids love him. He's the real deal and we are getting very serious. We are talking about moving in with each other. He also told me he has student loan debt and since I have the debt my EX left me with we have vowed to work together to pay down that debt. It's nice to be with someone who doesn't spend money like it grows on trees.
In other news, EX is still going out of the country for work. We have a right of first refusal clause in our order which states if either parent cannot be with the kids for an overnight then that parent should contact the other parent to take care of the kids. Well, Ex calls me last Friday and asked me to take care of the kids on Thursday until his plane gets in. I asked him "what about Wednesday" and he tells me his new wife is taking care of them. I explained to him what our order said about ROFR and he claimed that only applies to babysitters, not stepparents and that his NW has just as much rights to the kids as me. I told him he couldn't be more wrong. After a few more arguments I told EX I was getting clarification from my attorney. He snapped and told me if I was going to be difficult then he would find alternate care for Thursday and hung up on me. I tried to call him back, but he refused to answer the phone.
We have exchanged a few emails back and forth but to no avail. He claims that the wording of "should" in the clause gives him the choice to pick and chose who can watch the kids and that it is up to his discretion. I told him he was wrong and I wasn't giving my OK because that set a precedent. He didn't respond.
Why does he have to play these games still? Is it his sick little way of keeping me in his twisted little life? I guess I have no choice that to contact the courts and let them handle it.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
